Our Guidelines

We value our members’ safety and privacy. We have put together a set of guidelines and policies that help us protect our members. You can find the full set of guidelines on fetlife, but here is a summary of the pertinent points.

Who can attend events

Anyone in good standing with the community can attend a discussion group. Please provide your fetlife handle when registering for the event if you are new to SLAP. We do screen you preliminarily through your profile, and will meet you to be screened in person if we determine that you are not a creep (usually characterised by empty profiles with one or two cock pictures). It will also help us (and you) as we might have met you, but you might have introduced yourself differently from your registration.

We adopt a “vouching policy” for closed events like Peer Rope, skill shares and parties, as these will either take place at a private residence or a closed space. Members must be vouched for by any one of our facilitators or current members in good standing before being allowed to attend.

Any unfavourable behavior at an event and on SLAP!’s fetlife forum will result in a warning, possible disciplinary behavior, including suspensions and bans.

Screening policy

Screening of new applicants to our closed events will take place at a neutral location at our convenience. Please let the SLAP moderators know via fetlife that you would like to be screened so that we can arrange to meet you.


SLAP! does not condone playing with minors and/or playing when you are a minor. All events are open to members above 18 years of age.

Event etiquette
Please respect our members and their privacy when attending events.

  • Do not use/disclose any personal information even if you know that person personally
  • No photography / videography / recording is allowed at our events.
  • No cruising or soliciting. We run an educational series, not a dating joint.
  • Harassment and unsafe practices will not be tolerated.

Please read the full set of guidelines HERE.


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