Practice makes perfect! The SLAP! Rope Jam is for rope enthusiasts to meet, connect and learn, regardless of their skill levels.
Rope Jam is a peer learning event, and is open to even complete beginners (both tops and bottoms). Many of us began our foray into ropes through workshops and self-learning, but this rope journey is often a lonely one. For the rope bottoms, there is seldom a chance to socialise, exchange tips, and share problems with other bottoms. For tops, there is hardly an occasion to observe how other tops tie. The aim of Rope Jam is to provide a safe and open space for members of the community to practise and explore. We can all learn something and find the answers to our questions from the shared experiences of the community.
Format: Peer learning, individual practice
Level: All levels of experience. Suitable for complete beginners
Equipment: See below
Attire: Comfortable, form-fitting clothing. Yoga/dance/tights attire is ideal.
The event will start off with an hour or so of facilitated peer learning in small groups to tap on our collective wisdom. The group part (#togethertime) will be pretty free flowing, covering topics that participants want to focus on that week. If you want to have a discussion on how to be a better bottom, or need advice on a particular tie you have been learning, this will be a good time to ask. Beginners will also be guided through a basic 101 on ropes and communication/negotiation during this time. Following that, the remaining 2 hours are free practice time for participants to work on their rope practice in their own favourite corners.
The venue will have 4-6 suspension points and abundant space for floorwork. Please be mindful of your noise level at the venue and clean up after yourselves. Nudity and sexual play will not be permitted at this event.
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Some ideas (a non-exhaustive list) we have for #togethertime include:
- How to communicate with your partner
- Anatomy. Nerves, joints, etc.
- How to become more involved in the process of making the scene successful for both of you
- How to identify good pain vs bad pain
- How to to last longer in ropes, make ties more sustainable
- How to have good body awareness, knowing your own body
- Knowing your own limitations
- Stretching exercises
- Deeper explorations into various ways to tie a single-column, and advantages/disadvantages
- Different ways to join rope
- Hair ties
- Rope handling drills
- Futomomo/TK/Chest Harness/Hip Harness/Agura/pattern variations
- TK 3rd rope variants
- Different ways to tie/attach suspension lines
- Many others
What should bottoms expect?
You can bottom at your own comfort level, or try a new tie. Please be aware of your own body’s limitations and expect to have proper negotiations before agreeing to be tied. Active communication between top and bottom is fundamental to a satisfying scene.
What should tops expect?
You can learn and practise rope at your own pace, and build up your rope confidence. You should be respectful, and take responsibility for your actions. If you need guidance, we are happy to share what we know. However, note that this is a peer learning event and not a workshop, so other participants will also have things they want to accomplish during the event.
I’m new to ropes, can I come?
Sure, Rope Jam is a low pressure event where you can absorb information at your own pace. We can teach you the basics during the first part of the event to get you started on your rope journey. There will be a briefing about negotiations, consent and safety for all newcomers.
Do I need a partner? Can I come alone?
It is a good idea to sign up with someone you are comfortable with tying. However, a partner is not necessary for the event. We can try to pair people up, but taking initiative and being open to approaching and negotiating with other participants will definitely lead to more fruitful partnerships. If you intend to come just to observe how other people do their thing or practise self-tying, that’s also okay! No pressure!
What is permitted at the event?
This is a rope event so only rope related scenes are allowed. Sexual play and nudity are not permitted. Due to our venue, loud activities such as spanking are also not allowed.
Photography of your ties is permitted, but please make sure you have the expressed permission of everyone in the shot, including in the background.
Please be respectful of other participants’ boundaries and space, and do not interrupt scenes that are on-going unless those in the scene have been asked beforehand.